Go Big or Go Home!

The reality is I have been in these curves for quite some time now.  In fact, I can say confidently that I am a 10-year veteran.  I had been rejected by men in the past because of my curves but I eventually learned to love them.  One of the greatest days of my life was the day I woke up and looked at myself naked in my mirror and thought, “You know what, my dear, you ain’t lookin’ half-bad.  In fact, you are a whole lotta good *ish* wrapped up in a tasty package.”  (Yes, these conversations happen often)  And this is what brings us here today.

I’m here to promote curves by raising my hands to the sky and yelling out to the world “GO BIG!!!!!” I know, I know.  We all have different tastes and some of you just don’t prefer big chicks.  That’s cool.  I don’t prefer okra.  It’s fair to have a difference in opinions and its totally fair to like what you like.  I get it.  But if you are a man who has never experienced the warmth of a woman’s ‘fullness’ then I personally feel that you really haven’t lived yet.

There is something very endearing about a woman with extra love around her legs, hips, tummy and, of course, her bum.  At the risk of sounding very weird, I believe that every stretch mark, scar and imperfection is meant to tell a story and gives the body some character which, to me, ends up looking pretty perfect (on anybody for that matter). Curvy women who do it right and carry themselves with grace offer a unique confidence and sexy way about them that is truly irreplaceable by those less fortunate of the yummy goodness.  We thick chicks have been through some difficult things which specifically have made us more in tune with the human form, the zones and the spots.  We have had to explore outside of our measure on purpose, both physically and mentally, just to find a way to be comfortable in our skin.  We have been tossed to the side and have had to find strength within ourselves to somehow manifest negative energy into something positive.

Having that said, don’t you think that a woman who comes with that sort of struggle and triumph may just be the most interesting and exciting partner you have ever had, mentally and physically?  Go ahead and ask your boys who are fans of the rolls all about their experiences and see if they don’t already have a membership card. I am here speaking from experience and I have many a time been the first big girl that men were attracted to or at least interested in.  And really, its about confidence...the walk and the talk.   I'm not perfect and I definitely have insecurities but I introduce them to something new and different and offer a different perspective on life.   I’ve been told that men acquire a taste for the thickness after spending time with me.  *justsayin*

I think the moral of the story is that I have met some dudes recently who have never ever been with a thick chick, both emotionally and/or physically and I am simply here to say, “What are you waiting for?”  Not only is it ok to look but if you ever felt self-conscious about what your friends might think of your reputation by having us on your arm, well, news flash boo…they love them a ‘thickie’ just as much as you do.  If you still feel insecure about going big then just stick with what you like because your insecurities won’t be a good match for our confidence.  We are grown folks and usually grown folks don’t let much get in the way.  You will never know if you hate or love something in case you really try it and I’m a huge advocate for change in this day and age.  Do me and my yummy friends a huge favor and take us out for a spin and report back to me on how that trip made you feel.  I guarantee you will learn something about yourself you never knew and you may even unleash a side of you that you were just itching to let loose.  We may be an acquired taste but you will be so very glad your palette was cleansed.  I know this all to be true because I have lived it and see it every day.  That's all I have to say about that.




*I wrote this for an online lifestyle magazine